Shailini Parmar

Age: Adult
Association: Patient
Region: United Kingdom
Cancer: Hodgkins Lymphoma

"I have realized that I AM important and I no longer care about pleasing others. "

On April 18th, 2018, it had been confirmed that the last 9 months of being told by my doctor’s that there was nothing wrong with me, that my fevers and recurrent infections were just viral. That I had just been unlucky because it was easy to pick up infections when you have a 3-year-old. On this day, I was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma stage 4b. I went to a dark place, all I could think about was the loved ones that I had lost to cancer. I just couldn’t cope, let alone talk to anyone. I looked at my beautiful family and I broke into a million pieces.

I had found a lump on my neck back In December 2017 when I had just recovered from a sinus infection. My husband told me to go get it checked and my response was “It’s nothing, the doctors will just tell me that it’s nothing to worry about” I did, however, Google it and read that lumps on the neck are swollen lymph nodes, which are common after having a sinus infection.

On April 5th, 2018, I was admitted to the hospital as my blood tests showed a high level of inflammation. I spent 2 weeks there with a high fever and night sweats. Eventually, I had two biopsies on my lump, a CT and a PET scan to confirm the diagnosis and stage of cancer.

I still have 2 more rounds of chemo and I am still taking it one day at a time. I’m not sure where I am going but the love of my family and friends gives me the strength to fight this awful disease and I will fight with everything I have. I have realized that I AM important and I no longer care about pleasing others.

September is lymphoma awareness month so here I am raising awareness. Please follow your own instincts, if you feel that something is wrong, then trust yourself, nobody knows you better than you. Slow down and take care of yourselves, nothing is more important than your health.