Katy Steffey

Age: Adult
Association: Caregiver
Region: Michigan
Cancer: Osteosarcoma

"I try to remind my husband that if I could switch places with him or take the pain away, I totally would."

Tyler went to buy my engagement ring on December 17, 2018 and on December 18th we found out he had cancer. I told him to take the ring back because weren’t sure how expensive his treatment would be. A few weeks later, Tyler’s mom and I went to buy silicone bands from the same jeweler Tyler had originally bought the ring from. The jeweler said, “Tyler called and he wanted you to bring this back” and handed me a bag. We went home, I handed him the bag and he said, “what is this?” and it turned out that the jewelry story had surprised both of us by giving us the ring Tyler had picked out. We all immediately started crying.

People look at us and say we are so young and have so much life left to live. But I believe we found each other before his diagnosis so that I could be with him through cancer. In the beginning, Tyler struggled to do basic things for himself. He was sick and weak and needed my assistance. If we were older, I may not have had the physical strength to help him to this extent. I try to remind my husband that if I could switch places with him or take the pain away, I totally would.